Posts Tagged ‘success’

If you ever noticed, we humans are groomed and conditioned to be ‘winners’ and to avoid ‘failures’ right from the moment we start to notice the world around us after birth.success-and-failure-sign

As a child, we are chided by our parents for ‘failing’ to follow their instructions, or ‘failing’ to do well at school or even ‘failing’ to get along with our siblings.

The event of ‘failure’, in any way, is looked down upon at every step in the society we live in and by the world which presumably judges us for our actions.

The fear of failing starts to get so entrenched and well-positioned in our brain, as we grow up, it consequently prevents us from ‘trying’. We become so consumed by this fear that we dread taking initiatives, just in case we might fail to come up to others’ expectations – in professional or personal relationships.

Now, if fortunately by the time we start to understand the gravity of the stranglehold of this fear, we realise we are half way through our journey and ‘failed’ to make a start on our life.

And then begins the blame-game!

It’s important to understand the feeling or fear of ‘failure’ is just another state of mind, and that ‘failure’ is a relative term, generally defined by certain parameters of our society, which again are only relative and not absolute.

Examples from our history, and even the present, suggest and confirm that success and happiness are reaped by people who have conquered the fear of failure.

Milton Erickson, the world renowned psychiatrist and clinical hypnotherapist, was both dyslexic and colour blind, and severely paralysed at the age of 17 due to polio when the doctors gave him just one night to live.

He was not ready to be defeated by any of those challenges and lived up to be 79, even while helping to transform people’s lives using the powers of unconscious mind. He is also noted for his contributions to Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP).

NLP considers every event in life, including the so-called ‘failures’, as ‘feedback’ – information we can learn from.

A belief in ‘failure’, according to NLP, constricts lack of choices and leads to getting stuck. On the other hand, a belief in ‘feedback’ leads to opening up of new choices and learnings to achieve the desired results. It can work like magic!

So, give this magical method a go the next time you feel you have ‘failed’ in a goal – collate lessons from that event, ponder the feedback and utilise the new perspective to achieve what you desire.




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Our perception of the role of the subconscious in the scheme of things has broadened over the past few decades as it became a significant area of research.

It’s been believed that outer stimuli are received by our conscious mind, processed and acted upon to produce a result that may or may not be to our liking.

On the other hand, several psycho-analysts and researchers have emphasised that our subconscious mind has a huge impact on our results, without us even realising.

According to Wikipedia:

Subliminal stimuli (literally ‘below threshold’), contrary to supraliminal stimuli or ‘above threshold’, are any sensory stimuli below an individual’s threshold for conscious perception.

While some research has found that subliminal messages do not produce strong or lasting changes in behaviour, a recent review of functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) studies shows that subliminal stimuli activate specific regions of the brain despite participants being unaware.

The concept may be easily understood as simply as the effect watching a movie has on our minds – a comedy makes us feel happy, a romantic movie makes us feel emotional, while a thriller may leave us with clasped hands and stiff muscles… all without these being a ‘reality’ of our lives.

When was the last time you just ‘thought’ of a rich, decadent chocolate cake and ‘drooled’?

While the mystery of the subconscious gets unravelled, it’s obvious that all visual, audio and other sensory stimuli have the potential of taking a seat in our subconscious mind… temporarily or forever!

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